Why a Quality Friendship is the Most Important

“My friends have made the story of my life” is such a powerful quote by Helen Keller. We can both agree that this statement could not be more true in soooo many ways. Friends have come in and out of our lives, however for us at least – the most important ones have been there for a long time and are here to stay.

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Looking back on our childhood, high school, and college days we can paint a picture of how our friends have impacted us in good and bad ways. How they have made us happy, made us cry and disappointed us; supported us through the toughest of times, and have just been a companion. Between all of those emotions and feelings, there have been friends that were short term, but for us, we remember the long term friends. The ones that you almost don’t even consider a friend, but more family. The ones who know you in and out; who will challenge you and might even drive you crazy, but at the end of the day, they are there for you.

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They are there to support you when no one else will. They feel your pain, understand your struggles, but will always make you laugh. Not just HA HA – but legit ground rolling belly laughs, until you almost pee your pants. And it doesn’t matter where you are – whether the floor of someone’s living room or in the middle of a club. You could sit in silence for hours or have the deepest conversation and they will get it. They understand you and they don’t judge you. They will offer the hardest, toughest advice because they know it is for your benefit. They know your worth and what you deserve. They are there for you and you are there for them.

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So what are these friends? These are QUALITY friends. These are the types of friends we choose to have because we value this support, it is like no other. It is different than a sibling or a mother even though the closeness seems the same. We choose these friends because we want them there for life – for the break ups, marriages, babies, deaths and losses. We want them there for the exciting and the tragic and guess what? They WANT to be there. No flakes here please!

So we choose QUALITY over QUANTITY. Because quantity to us seems transactional. It seems drama-filled (dare we say that?). It’s too much to keep up with, too many calls, too many problems, too many events. And everyone has a different role with quantity. There might be the going to dinner friend, the boy drama friend, the mall friend, the gym friend, the get wasted drunk friend, the every other month friend, the once a year friend. AH!!!!

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For us – we know that quality suits us. Why? Mostly because we are quality friends to each other but also because we have found over the years that our quality friends have been the best of our friends. They are every type of friend in one. They provide the best memories, the best support and have no expectations in return. OUR friends have made (and continue to make) the story of our lives.

Xo Sass and Sweetness

Our Friendship

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For those who don’t know us – we are Christie and Samantha or Sass and Sweetness! We are besties that grew up together, literally our moms were pregnant at the same time and we are exactly 29 days apart (Sweetness the older one – holla!). Our childhood was ordinary in the sense that we grew up with loving parents, had an abundance of toys, and took gymnastics lessons. What was extraordinary about our childhood was the confidence we had as kids and imaginations that were unlike any other.

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As kids we often went to “Camp Mom-mom and Pop-pop”… which is code for our parents wanted to go out so they would send us to Christie’s grandparents house. There were no ordinary rules here though and we could use our imaginations to the fullest! We built forts with all of the couch cushions, transformed the living room into the Beverly Hills Restaurant with fake food and dining tables, and went to the nearby park to perform shows on the outdoor stage in front of total strangers… all with no shame. We also “ruled” the playground at our Elementary school – walking around like total #girlbosses. If only we could have bottled that confidence up and sprinkled it on us as we got older!

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We were inseparable as kids, until our parents moved to different towns and that relationship started to change. Not in a bad way, but we didn’t see each other every.single.day like we did before. New friendships were made, new experiences were had. Sass went to an all girl’s private high school where Friday nights consisted of PG-13 movies with friends in the basement and Sweetness… let’s just say she had a much different experience. We always “stayed in touch” but our relationship transitioned more into “cousin” type of friends. We saw each other for family events and always picked up where we left off, but weren’t calling each other when there was some drama with a boy or if we wanted to go to the mall.

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As we moved through college and life as of today, our relationship has changed back to what it was before! With so many of our close friends getting married (including Sass), we have been able to get together more often than we were before since we lived in different states. When we both relocated back to NJ and decided to start this blog, our imaginations have sparked again and we are back to our silly, weird old selves.

…Okay well there are some hesitations with that prior statement… because of LIFE and ADULTING ughhhh. We both recently went through some drastic changes – Sass is newly married with a baby and Sweetness is newly single and moved back to NJ from the West Coast. Things have been tough at times, it’s not always the rule the playground type of days we had back in our childhood, however we are pushing to work through it all. We are now there for each other in a different type of way. You won’t see us building forts anymore in the middle of the living room (well if that was acceptable we probably would) but we always have each other’s back no matter the situation. We know this type of friendship is rare and we are incredibly grateful that despite all of the changes we have experienced, we still continue to be the best of friends!

Do you have a friendship similar to this? We would love to hear about it below!

Xo Sass and Sweetness